First mothers have some harsh lessons to learn. Don't let this article put you off having a baby, though. It's just meant to prepare you for the worst!

Babies aren't like us. To be blunt, they have no sense of style or decorum, nor do they respect the fact that while they were happily sleeping and being provided nourishment from your own body, you were out there trying your best to prepare for their arrival.

Long before your baby arrived on the scene, you were out looking for the best baby crib on the market for your new 'bundle of joy.' You and your husband spared no expense and bought the best convertible crib natural as ergonomically designed and constructed as you could find. The two of you had done a lot of reading and decided that the only crib good enough for your baby was the one that chiropractors recommended.

Then, while you were fighting back the almost constant urge to vomit (they call it morning sickness, but it should be called mourning sickness!), you forced yourself to go looking for a bedding collection that both you and the baby would like. It wasn't an easy decision to make and the fact that your baby was literally making you sick didn't help!

Finally, you found some designer crib bedding that was perfect. You took it home, lovingly made up the baby's crib and sat back and felt a warm flood of joy over the impending arrival of a new baby in your life.

That crib with all its designer bedding continued to inspire you and help you get through the long months before baby's arrival. Somehow, they made it a little easier to put up with all the aches and pains associated with your pregnancy. In your mind, you saw its fat, grinning face smiling up at you from its gorgeous designer bed and felt that all the hassles were going to be worth it.

Then baby arrived and you had to face the sickening truth: your new baby had no sense of style at all! It couldn't care less about its beautiful sheets and showed it by pee-peeing all over them every chance it got! It wasn't too impressed with your hideously expensive ergonomically designed crib, either. It didn't fall to sleep the instant you put it inside and happily stay there till you wanted it to wake up.

The life you imagined for you and your new baby was so much better than the life you got! Cruel reality sometimes makes you feel like motherhood was just a big mistake. Nonetheless, for some weird reason, the fact that your baby pees on its designer sheets and wakes you up at ungodly hours hasn't stopped you from feeling that it was all worth it. The only thing you'll do differently next time is by cheap bedding!

The closer it gets to your baby's arrival, more people ask what you are having. While some people may reply 'A baby', most of the time, what people really want to know is whether you are expecting a boy or a girl. Some expecting parents are not interested in knowing. Other parents are dying to know but were unable to find out. Either way, there is a lot to be said for neutral baby gear.

Pink frilly stuff and blue buttons are great when you are talking about accent items that can changed without great cost. They are not so advisable when you are talking about major expenditures. If you are planning on more that one child than the convertible crib natural will make far more sense in the long run if you are planning on more than one baby.

Light browns and other earth tones can be very sweet for a baby nursery. By carefully selecting neutral colors your designer baby bedding you can make sure that it is worth every cent you pay for it. These are usually high quality and can survive baby after baby, but not if they are pink with lace.

There is such a thing as too much pink or too much blue. When you overdo it the end result can be nauseating for adults. Think of the poor baby that is not able to speak up about the problem! Sticking with the earth tones will be far more calming for everyone.

The convertible crib is easily accented with other things. You can always tack on some bows, or attach some buttons to make it cuter. The biggest difference is that in the end, these things can be easily changed or eliminated. It is not so easy when the whole crib is gender specific.

Children are expensive. Buying things that are specifically from either a boy or a girl can double that expense. No matter what anyone says, it just does not feel right tucking a little baby boy into a bed designed to look like a pink castle. The same can be said of strapping a little baby girl in to a high chair decorated to look like a dump truck. Save yourself the headache and the money and keep things as neutral as possible.

Applying a little bit of foresight and common sense to your shopping can save you a lot in the long run. Even in the case of twins, keeping the item neutral will reduce fighting and bickering down the road. It makes more sense no matter now you look at it.